If anyone says that marriage is easy, then they are lying. Marriage is never easy. You will have arguments, you will have stressful moments, moments when you will ask yourself "What the hell am I doing?", and of course you will want to leave at some points. But if you truly love each other, you will try to work it out before you decide completely give up. In the time (a year and a half) that me and my husband have been married, we have had good times and bad times. We've struggled with money problems from time to time, and like every blended family, we've had a tough time with my step children. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not one of those evil stepparents, but before me and my husband got married, him and the girls lived with his parents so his parents could help him get the girls back and forth to daycare. (My husband worked from 6:30-5:00 Monday-Thursday and his mom worked from 8:30-2:30, and daycare opened at 7:00) I'm sure that most of you know where this is going but I'm going to explain anyway. My husband and the twins moved in with his parents when the girls were 11 months old, and before they moved in with his parents, my husband had custody of the twins when they were 8 months old. Well, the girls formed the mother/daughter bind with my husbands mom, so when me and my husband got married and the girls moved in with us, they were upset. Which of course that made me feel like I was "taking them away" from the only life they knew. Which in a way I was. So when I tried to talk to my husband about how I felt, he would brush it off like it really didn't matter, which resulted in us having an argument. The girls still get upset from time to time, and wants to move back with my husbands parents. The girls have yelled, screamed, stomped their feet and cried from the first day they moved from them. But their getting better. If any of you ever get into a situation like this, and someone tells you to give the children a year, DO NOT listen to that piece of advice. It's been a year and a half and my step kids still cry and pitch fits. The kids will adjust in time. You won't know if it'll be a year, two years, and it could be never. I do know that it breaks my heart seeing my step kids act like this, and I have told my husband time and time again that if we have too, him and the girls will just have to move back with his parents if it doesn't get any better for the girls. The only reason I say him and the girls instead of just the girls is because the girls mom isn't in the picture per say, and if my husband doesn't stay with them, I would feel like I was taking away their only parent.